Autistic adults have, in general, differences in sexuality from the norm. Many more are asexual than in the average population.
Introduction Imagine the following scenario: The couple have been married by reason of a year and have presented with a total lack of intimacy or sexual contact. Sarah has refused to be physically intimate with Mark since their wedding night and although she is totally committed to Objective and wants the relationship to continue, states that she has found being physically touched about him both painful and offensive.
As you explore more and you discuss the couple's story it becomes apparent that Sarah has never had an orgasm and finds kissing Mark unpleasing. She struggles to understand why it is such an consummation for him and why he cannot be content with masturbation.
What would you conclude from this?
Intimacy involves sharing emotions and intimate thoughts, as well as hopes, beliefs, physical affection, and sex. While sex is important in a relationship, it is not the only way to create intimacy. Listening and paying attention to their partners needs is not something that comes easily.
I then advise both partners to discuss their list with each other and generate a second list of things they can each do to increase the intimacy between them. By taking one item on these lists and focusing on that one for a certain period of time, then a second one when the first is firmly established, couples often can create the conditions of intimacy that were lacking before.
Working with your partner to figure out what kinds of touch can be tolerated is a crucial step in allowing physical affection to develop. Letting your partner know when you need or want to be touched can overcome the difficulty your partner has in recognizing the importance of affection.
Consider the following exercise. Together with your partner make a list of the things that your partner does sexually that you like.
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Sexuality on the autism spectrum
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